22 September, 2013
Off to sit on a cushion
I'm off in a few days time to sit on a cushion away from the day-to-day distractions and all online contact. Sometime people ask why anyone would do such a thing. Louis C.K's story of sitting in his car at the side of the road and allowing himself to experience sadness and happiness, is as good an explanation as possible.
By the way, his explanation about smartphone use and children, is also quite brilliant.
16 September, 2013
You are what you eat, but you can be what you wear
I've been following David McRaney's blog, You're Not SoSmart, for a few years now. Any blog with the byline “a celebration of
self-delusion” is a good blog to read. Secondly, I really like his interest in exploring
and demythisizing common beliefs.
Even it he sets out to cure us of our false beliefs, he does not appear to be doing it out of a wish to rub our noses in our ignorance.
“I, David McRaney, am not a psychologist or an economist. I
am a journalist and fan writing about what those super-smart and hard-working
people are discovering on these topics. Sometimes, I get it wrong. I’m doing my
best to translate it all and make it fun, but If I’m wrong and you know it,
please let me know. These things can be edited and corrected. I welcome
assistance in clarifying the concepts.”
In this world where everyone seems to consider themselves infallible
experts, you got to like someone who is willing to be corrected.
15 September, 2013
The Innovation of Loneliness
Shimi Cohen wrote the script and created the
design and animation of the video above. He based this piece on Sherry Turkle’s
book, Alone Together. It poses the question, “What is the connection between
Social Networks and Being Lonely?”
It is one of those visualisations that challenges
the brain. Very quick successions of input, some subtle and others confusing;
needing thought as the verbal message keeps roaring down the tracks.
I was having some difficulty following the
script, so I clicked on the automatic annotations. Boy, was that ever amusing.
It made little or no sense at all. Admittedly, Mr. Cohen does talk very
quickly, but seriously:
“invention of language in gossip as hell sleep
larger and more group just a logical research indicates that the maximum
naturals I think group humans is roughly 150 members”
Instead of,
“The invention of language and gossip has helped
to shape larger and more stable groups. Sociological research indicates that
the maximum natural size of groups for humans is roughly 150 members.”
The obvious discrepancies drove me to sit down this morning and write out the script as it is spoken (see below).
Reading the text slowly, allowed me needed time to slowly ponder the ideas presented.
Generally, I find them interesting. Yet, I think they
only apply when you restrict Social Networks to just a few, though admittedly
powerful, platforms like FB and Twitter. There are many social media platforms,
Wikipedia being the most notable, where Mr. Cohen’s and Ms. Turkle’s hypothesis probably wouldn’t hold.
Here’s the script. Not without errors, but at least a more approximate facsimile.
A simple fact, monkeys that a known to have a developed
social life, organize in small groups with several dozen members. The size of each
of these groups is limited. In order for them to function, all members of the
group need to know each other well. The average size of the group changes from 20
to 50 members. When the number of monkeys in a group passes a certain threshold,
the social order crumbles and the group tends to split into two separate groups.
A similar situation can be found amongst humans as well.
The invention of language and gossip has helped
to shape larger and more stable groups. Sociological research indicates that
the maximum natural size of groups for humans is roughly 150 members. Most
humans are just incapable of intimately knowing more than 150 people. So even
today the threshold of human organizations around the number of 150 members.
Man is a social creature and the feeling of
loneliness can drive them mad. Yet, the western and modern world sanctions
individuality. The individual is measured by personal achievements, such as
having a career, wealth, a self-image, and consumerism. In this course of
action, many people lose their social and familial connections, in favor of a
self-actualization ideal. As a social fabric in the western world weakens, it
is not surprising that more and more people define themselves as lonely. And thus,
loneliness has become the most common aliment of the modern world.
One of the possible reasons for the aliment is
the online social network. In a world where time is money, in which our
surroundings heavily pressure us to achieve more and more, our social life becomes
tainted and more demanding than ever before.
And then there's technology. Simpler. Hopeful. Optimistic.
Ever young. We become addicted to virtual romance disguised by The Social
Network, which supplies an impressive platform that allows us to manage our
social life most effectively. However, our fantasies about substitutions are
starting to take a toll. We’re collecting friends like stamps, no distinction of
quantity versus quality, and converting the deep meaning of intimacy in a
friendship with exchanging photos and chat conversations.
By doing so, we are sacrificing conversation for
mere connection. And so a paradoxical situation is created, in which we claim
to have many friends while actually being lonely.
So what is the problem with having a
conversation? Well, it takes place in real time and you can’t control what
you're going to say. And that is the bottom line. Texting, email, posting, all of
these things let us present the Self as you want it to be. We get to edit and
that means, we get to delete.
Instead of building true friendships, we’re
obsessed with endless personal promotion. Investing hours on end building our
profile, pursuing the optimal order of words in our next message, choosing the
pictures in which we look our best. All of which is meant to serve as a
desirable image of who we are. We are expecting more from technology and less
from each other. The social networks aren't just changing what we're doing, but
also who we are. And that's because technology appeals to us most where we are
most vulnerable.
And we are vulnerable. We are lonely, but we’re
afraid of intimacy. While the social networks offers us three gratifying fantasies.
One that we can put our attention wherever we want it to be. Two that we will
always be heard. And three that we will never have to be alone. And that third
idea, that we will never have to be alone, is central to change in our psyches.
It's shaping a new way of being. The best way to
describe it is, “I share therefore I am”.
We use technology to define ourselves by sharing
our thoughts and feelings, even as we're having them. Furthermore we’re faking
experiences so we have something to share. So we can feel alive. We slip into
thinking that always being connected is going to make us feel less alone. But
we are at risk because the opposite is true. If we are not able to be alone, we
are only going to know… how to be lonely.
14 September, 2013
Growing old in 5 minutes
Bards of Old
Do you wonder whether if any of the bards of old came to us in the future, whether their musical instrument of choice would be the ukulele?
13 September, 2013
Theresa's Angel
Allegro
Not just the crystal timbre
Drawn out by the violin bow;
But, the tang of spring moss
On the Laurentian moor /
The cinnamon accent singing
In the bite of Sunday’s apple cake /
The galloping
laughter ricocheting
Around during
the car ride
Home from the
airport /
The joyous
crazy cacophony
Of young
children’s voices
Bundling up
before going
Out to play
in the snow/
I am not the
slow and stately
Adagio.
Rather, I am the bright
Quick piercing
bliss of Allegro.
That is me.
01 September, 2013
Dave's Angel
I want to leave behind the heavy body,
With its fallen-arched leather-soled feet,
The knees and elbows spotted with
Various growths of undiscernible nature.
The big belly, the Buddha belly,
Getting in the way, having to be
Maneuvered around whenever
Flight of motion is called for. And,
The sounds: the stomping, stumbling,
Groaning, moaning, sighing, slurping
Sounds. And that special tuneless,
Toneless whistling between half-closed lips.
Not that any of this really bothers me,
But, given the choice…
I choose to be a sea sprite.
A delicate, willowy, semi-transparent,
Possible to see out of the corner of
Your eyes, beautiful Ethereal Being.
Taking flight, oh so briefly, off the wisps
Of sea spray twirling on the tops of
Angry roaring waves. Then blissfully,
I plunge into the depths of tidal surges.
Down. Down. Soaring along the seamount
Of volcanic crust. Deep. Deep. Under
Kick’em Jenny, across the strait of water
Between Grenada and Carriacou;
Where the boats are now heading
Before the sun goes down, and the
Green Flash can blind them with its
Mystic wonder.
Instead, I’m free to fly above and below.
There is neither. There are both. Except now
When there is only the cold of a ship’s grave,
The heat of escaping lava, the exhilaration
Of dancing along the breath of this seemingly
Endless expanse of sea landscape.
Ahead a storm looms… I turn and rush back,
Head on, into the turbulence. The chaos.
It's mine. It's me. It's what I'm meant to be.
Edna's Angel
An antique doll with a porcelain face
In white wedding garb with plenty of lace.
So much adored and kindly kept
By generations of girls
Believing in princes and kisses in vain;
Till they learn that needed lesson
That Real and Realistic are not the same.
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